Many advocates of same-sex marriage recognize that it is part of a strategy of deconstructing any social ideal in family or sexual life. David L. Chambers, a distinguished law professor at the University of Michigan, laid out the underlying connection in a law review article: "If the law of marriage can be seen as facilitating the opportunities of two people to live an emotional life that they find satisfying -- rather than as imposing a view of proper relationships -- the law ought to be able to achieve the same for units of more than two."
When the core norm of marriage is under sustained legal attack, the proper response is not to "leave it to the states." As Edwin Meese pointed out in The Wall Street Journal, if marriage really matters, it matters in all 50 states. Some things really are fundamentals of our civilization. We don't permit states to "experiment" with communist forms of government. We don't allow judges to redefine what a corporation is. If marriage really matters, the right response to a sustained legal attack on our marriage norms is to use the constitutional process our forefathers gave to us to reaffirm our social ideal.
In the United Sates of America, marriage means something: the union of husband and wife who can give to their children a mother and a father.
Maggie Gallagher is a nationally syndicated columnist, a leading voice in the new marriage movement and co-author of The Case for Marriage: Why Married People Are Happier, Healthier, and Better Off Financially.