Word is that up in Massachusetts, a lot of state legislators had a similar angry reaction. The court not only imposed gay marriage, it insulted people of good will who disagree. "The way they framed the decision was really dismissive of genuine concerns. I felt radicalized," says Elizabeth, "even though I do not identify with a lot of the people who are opposing it."
To Elizabeth, it is all too reminiscent of the divorce revolution in the 1970s, when, based on enthusiasm for adult choice (and a handful of preliminary social science studies), "experts" concluded that divorce was fine for children. It took 30 years of painstaking research and a whole generation of adult children of divorce revealing their own experiences to reverse that adult consensus about what children need. Our culture of marriage has not yet fully recovered.
That experience makes her wary of what might be called the family utopianism invoked by the Massachusetts court: "Massachusetts last week redefined marriage in a way that makes you unable to say that children need mothers and fathers. When people start lying about children's experience, I get really angry."
She is not going to be deterred by charges of bigotry or hate. Children of divorce, she says, suffer because they don't have a mom and dad in one family: "I really suspect that children of same-sex couples feel the same way, and I will keep raising the question until we find out."
Maggie Gallagher is a nationally syndicated columnist, a leading voice in the new marriage movement and co-author of The Case for Marriage: Why Married People Are Happier, Healthier, and Better Off Financially.