The ugliest marriage profiled is Emily's, a senior sales exec married to a struggling photographer. "When Emily comes home, she doesn't always want to be the boss," the magazine reports. "But she says her husband no longer has the authority to take over. 'I want somebody to take that power role away from me,' she explained. '(But) I'm not going to pay the bills -- I feel like his mother -- and then come home and (perform a sexual act unmentionable in a family newspaper, although not apparently in New York magazine).'"
The sexual truth is that women (unless they're lesbians) are attracted to men. And masculinity is not like femininity. It is a performance. It has to be won -- and it can be lost. How to create a strong sense of masculinity that serves rather than oppresses women is the problem feminists never solved because until now, they dared not even acknowledge that it exists.
Maggie Gallagher is a nationally syndicated columnist, a leading voice in the new marriage movement and co-author of The Case for Marriage: Why Married People Are Happier, Healthier, and Better Off Financially.