All this because God decided to have a baby, to be a baby. Extraordinary!
I have a Christmas message for you, one that women today almost never hear: If you want to have a baby, and you are married, go ahead.
I still get letters from people who think that there is a population explosion, and maybe you hear the frowning voices, too. Bah humbug! Ignore them. America's birthrate is just barely at replacement level (thanks to large numbers of immigrants who have not yet been properly indoctrinated); Europe and Japan are dwindling away. The United Nation's Population Division is issuing urgent warnings about the economic stagnation that will result from population decline as nations industrialize. And its experts find it hard to establish any correlation at all between effective anti-baby programs and economic development.
So if you are married, and you want to have a baby, go ahead. You are not taking food from the mouths of poor people. You are contributing a loving, caring, healthy, productive human being to take care of the world in the next generation.
I am amazed, when I talk with my fellow wives, how negative we Americans have become about babies. It is not that we do not love and want them, but we seem to be terrified of having them. Is it responsible? Is it safe? Will our other children feel jealous or neglected? Can we afford an Ivy League education 20 years down the road? Nobody tells women to go ahead and have a baby these days. Even our mothers, looking fearfully at their sons-in-law, wonder about the divorce that may be down the road, and urge us to get back to work.
According to family scholar Alan Carlson, the entire baby boom of the '50s was basically a Catholic phenomenon. My church, the Roman Catholic one, used to be good at giving out this message, but no more. Now Catholic birthrates are, like other religious groups, below replacement. (According to latest reports, American anti-baby culture may ultimately prove more effective than Hitler shrinking the Jewish population.) Even Catholic orthodoxy has turned inward, with the most traditional Catholics focused narrowly on avoiding traditional Catholic sexual sins, such as contraception. But avoiding sexual sin is not the same thing as sexual virtue. If you are married and you feel like having a baby, go ahead.
Maggie Gallagher is a nationally syndicated columnist, a leading voice in the new marriage movement and co-author of The Case for Marriage: Why Married People Are Happier, Healthier, and Better Off Financially.