How about this one? Four years ago, on Valentine's Day, Sheran Samuel, a 35-year-old speech pathologist, and her husband, Guy, stepped up to the altar of the First Presbyterian Church in Baton Rouge, La., to convert to a covenant marriage. They had been married 13 years. Not great years, not bad years, the way Sheran tells it. "I wouldn't say we were happily married. I wouldn't say we were unhappily married. We were just married," she tells me.
They fought sometimes, sometimes lots, over the kinds of things married people do fight about when they have two jobs, two kids, and not enough hours in the day: How could you forget to get the brakes repaired! Who decided that was my job, aren't I doing enough around here?! How can you get so emotional! All you care about is your logic!
Getting out of a standard marriage in Louisiana takes just six months, no questions asked. With a covenant contract, spouses agree to wait longer, live separately at least 18 months and to seek counseling to resolve marital difficulties.
So when the idea of covenant marriage arose, Sheran had her doubts: "If things didn't get better, would it make things more difficult?" But she swallowed her doubts and listened to her husband, and together they signed the statement closing off the option of quick, "easy" divorce.
Well, a few years later, things did get worse, not better. A lot worse. Her husband lost his job, adding to the stress. Even a small practical dispute could end up in a furious fight about fighting. Even with counseling, they vacillated between good times and bad times. Sheran had had enough. She filed for legal separation. At the time, divorce seemed like the only option.
"I did it for relief," she recalls. "I needed relief from the conflict, relief from the stress." Yet here she was saddled with a covenant marriage! "I told my pastor I was very angry about signing the covenant marriage. At the time I felt trapped," says Sheran. "The wait was way too long. We'd been through enough pain, why drag it out? Things were hopeless, I felt, and the law was making us needlessly suffer."
Maggie Gallagher is a nationally syndicated columnist, a leading voice in the new marriage movement and co-author of The Case for Marriage: Why Married People Are Happier, Healthier, and Better Off Financially.
DOJ Monitored Phone Lines of Five Fox News Reporters, Fox News Executives and Family Members of Reporters | Katie Pavlich
BREAKING: Senate Judiciary Committee Approves Gang of Eight Immigration Reform Bill | Daniel Doherty