Where do I begin?
First there's "Temptation Island," a "provocative new reality-based show" in which, according to the Fox press release, four unmarried (thank God for small favors) but "seriously committed" couples will be transported to an exotic zone. There, mateless and unscrupulous singles will attempt to entice them into betraying their old love. After two weeks of "exploring the single world again," each member of the couple will decide: the old POSSLQ or the new bimbo?
It doesn't stop there. Call it the new dysfunctional family hour. Fox's fall lineup includes "Titus," a sitcom about a father with a string of ex-wives. ABC's "The Geena Davis Show" takes us into the wacky world of cohabiting couples raising children without worrying about marriage. The WB network's "Gilmore Girls" features two teen-age daughters and their unmarried mom, who proclaims, "By not getting married, we kept our bright futures!"
Meanwhile, back in the real world, unmarried mothers are five times more likely to be poor. Even when they are not poor, as University of Chicago Professor Linda J. Waite and I point out in our book, "The Case for Marriage: Why Married People Are Happier, Healthier and Better Off Financially," research confirms that women, as well as men, are hurt by not being married. Women raising children alone are at higher risk for physical illness, depression, anxiety, domestic violence and other violent crime, alcoholism and other substance abuse, and even personal unhappiness. Married people even have better sex more often than their single or divorced counterparts. Take that, Titus!
Every time I talk about "The Case for Marriage," I get asked: If marriage is so good for you, why is there so much divorce? Good question. Surely one small reason is that the realities of divorce are seldom allowed to intrude into our popular portrayals of it. Instead, in media from sitcoms to women's magazines, divorce is typically portrayed as the great liberation, especially for women.
Maggie Gallagher is a nationally syndicated columnist, a leading voice in the new marriage movement and co-author of The Case for Marriage: Why Married People Are Happier, Healthier, and Better Off Financially.