Kathryn Lopez

And that's what's missing in the perennial media kerfuffles about the rhetorical abortion battles as fought by politicians: stories of people who have chosen life, regardless of the sacrifice, and of the people who helped them make that decision and live with it.

"When I have surgery, I stay with Jesus on the cross. I pray in my heart for Mama, Dad, and Ben." That's 6-year-old Grace Polvani, who, along with her older brother Benedict, has a genetic syndrome that keeps them both in and out of hospitals. The two of them embrace life, understanding sacrifice to be a necessary and even redemptive part of it.

Sacrifice "is what you're in for," Chiaro Polvani shared in a recent interview with the Sisters of Life, which run a mission for women who need help raising their children.

Abortion is a violence of the most intimate sort. The more we accept it as a "sacred ground," as Pelosi put it, as some kind of sign of liberation, the more we miss the culture it promotes, where men are disconnected -- with no shame -- from their children, where women submit to being used rather than cherished, and where babies we know to be humans, not mere tissue or cells, are discarded. A culture that helps people rise to challenges and make sacrifices has got to be a better choice. It's about choosing love -- in life and even public policy.

Kathryn Lopez

Kathryn Jean Lopez, editor of National Review Online, writes a weekly column of conservative political and social commentary for Newspaper Enterprise Association.