Kathryn Lopez

If the consequences of this is a Supreme Court ruling the likes of Roe v. Wade, one that puts the Supreme Court in the role of culture changer from above, this is where the discrimination will begin.

"The marriage crisis is specifically related to a decline of men and women marrying and an increase of fatherless homes with severe human and societal consequences," May says. "If the only institution that unites kids with their moms and dads is eliminated, it would become legally discriminatory to promote the unique value of men and women marrying before having children," he explains.

Which is why it's time to get down to the business of working out together just what we're talking about when we talk about marriage. This linguistic confusion is not a rhetorical quirk of the age, but the consequence of the upheaval of recent decades. It's what technology, economics and competing ideas about freedom have wrought in the lives of men, women and children.

We all want, need and deserve love. The debate over marriage isn't about questioning -- or denying -- this. It's about what marriage is and what common good the law serves in being involved with it. We won't have a prayer at rebuilding a marriage culture until we seek some clarity and truth here, where charity and love prevail.

Kathryn Lopez

Kathryn Jean Lopez, editor of National Review Online, writes a weekly column of conservative political and social commentary for Newspaper Enterprise Association.