Jennifer Roback Morse

The Left wants sex to be an irrelevant category. Now, if the question is who can be an astronaut or accountant, you might be able to make the case that sex is irrelevant. Most people can go along with the idea that we should not be overly rigid about gender roles. But the Left wants much more than that.  They want sex to be irrelevant, period.

I was once debating same sex marriage, at a large state university. I was the only person on the panel who supported the definition of marriage as being between a man and a woman. I asked one of my opponents whether she thought gender were a relevant category for parenting. I expected that she would be too embarrassed to say no. But in that Leftist-dominated environment, she came right out and admitted that she thought men and women were completely interchangeable as parents.
The widespread support for opposite-sex marriage is founded on precisely on this point. Most Americans intuitively understand that mothers and fathers are different, and that kids need both.  Claiming that same sex couples can be married is claiming that sex is irrelevant to parenting. No one outside of a university really believes that.

But an intuitive understanding is not good enough to sustain us through the arguments that are coming our way in the Culture Wars.  We have to articulate what we believe and why. We have to understand that the very concept of gender and sex is under attack.

The Left believes that sex is irrelevant to parenting, to child-rearing and child-bearing, to marriage and even to sex itself. Judging by the rhetoric on college campuses, their goal is for each and every person to be indifferent as to whether they have sex with an opposite sex partner or with a same sex partner.

Since this kind of gender equality can never be achieved, the Left can position itself for unlimited regulation of virtually every kind of behavior. If you accept the premise that all differences between men and women are socially constructed and that we are morally obligated to deconstruct all these differences, you give the Left carte blanche for endless intervention into the most intimate details of people’s lives.

Our challenge is to reconnect with the timeless values that have allowed men and women to cooperate with each other through the ages. We can acknowledge that men and women are different, without succumbing to the urge to dominate or bully each other. Men and women can complement each other, rather than compete with each other. But we will never manage this feat, unless we first realize what we are up against. The Left’s demand for equality must be exposed for the power grab that it is.

Jennifer Roback Morse

Jennifer Roback Morse, Ph.D., is the author of Smart Sex: Finding Life-long Love In A Hook-up World. She blogs at

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