Corrie was eager for her date with Jake so that he could see her “fun” side. Sadly, the fun scenes (available on YouTube) were mostly cut from the final episode. Instead, the scenes portray an uptight Corrie and Jake questions her about her reticence. She tells him, “I’ll tell you anything you want to know.” He asks her where they’ll live if they get engaged. She tells him that they will live wherever he wants, but in separate apartments until they are married. He shows surprise and asks “Are you saving yourself for marriage?” She replies that she is. Jake responds, "I completely respect where you're coming from and that's not an issue for me." After all, he explains, it is not about “sex appeal,” it is about “heart appeal.”
Let’s run that by again.
Is he saying that Corrie does not have sex appeal because she is a virgin? Is he implying that her status as a virgin is because she doesn’t have enough sex appeal? With the other “ladies” throwing themselves at him, has he lost the ability to connect beyond sexual activity? Does he judge “connection” purely by sexual activity?
When he decided to send Corrie home, Jake explained that Corrie was “taking so long to open up” that he “really, really worried” that she would “never open up fully.” What’s the message? If a girl is not jumping into bed immediately with a guy, she might be the kind of person who never “opens up fully.”
The very popular Bachelor series continues the myth that “love” is all about jumping in bed as soon as possible –– skipping all the steps along the way –– and if anyone balks at that approach to relationships, they are the problem. Corrie expressed a desire to know Jake “on a deeper level,” but Jake and the other girls are only interested in sexual escapades.
I frequently give speeches at colleges and universities about promiscuity –– its false promises, searing pain and tragic problems. The contestants on these shows would do well to listen to my warnings; the individuals are overwhelmingly hurting young adults who are experiencing searing pain, but drawn to the possibility of true love by the false promises of finding Mr. or Miss Right.
A simple truth has been proven through countless relationships through decades and decades: Promiscuous sex impairs the ability to bond. Humans seek permanent and exclusive emotional bonds through sexual intimacy, but mere momentary excitement and the transitory pleasure of temporary relationships are unsatisfactory and insufficient. When the natural human desire to bond is stirred by sexual activity but is repeatedly denied, the person becomes hardened and the capacity to bond is weakened. Promiscuous sex causes pain before marriage and lingering problems later on during marriage. Sexual intercourse is constructive ONLY within marriage.