Third, do not rob other people or your own children of consequences. Being “nice” is just a way of pretending that the outside world -- full of natural consequences connected to our actions -- does not exist. Not teaching or not speaking up about the natural consequences of immoral behavior is worse than believing gravity does not exist. One harms the soul, and the other harms the body. A safe bet would be to protect both.
Fourth, teach your children and others in your life about human nature, and prepare them not to be surprised by evil but to be surprised by grace. It is natural for mankind to be selfish; it is uncommon for mankind to treat others with unmerited favor. Directing others and yourself on this idea will reveal more miracles in this world than we could imagine.
Finally, teach others, and your own children, that they are not victims of anyone or anything. The rain falls on everyone, and hurricanes, earthquakes, and death does not choose according to race, or sexual identity, or religious creed. Victims need help and wait for that help, and help does not always come. The heroes that I was raised to respect could have justly called themselves victims but did not, and they inspired the oppressed to take action.
My intent was not to ruin this important holiday or celebration by pointing out what should be obvious but to tell other men that, as a whole, we are failing! It is time we took responsibility for our role in society and man up. There are many great fathers in this world, but none of us are perfect, and I hope this will be a great reminder for not only myself but for all of us.
The reality of my situation is that my father is gone, and I will not be able to ask any questions, or ask for a hug, or brag about my accomplishments. On the other hand, God has provided me with so many other spiritual fathers and mentors that I would be remiss to not only thank them on this holiday but to carry on their work in my life to others. They can never replace my father, and I do not want them to, but they can continue the development that my father started. Men play a crucial role in our society, and Father’s Day should be a reminder of just that.