Dustin Siggins

Why have I never had sex? The decision was made at first because my parents informed me of the costs and benefits of pre-marital sex, from the spiritual consequences to more mundane ones. To paraphrase my father, sex is an adult activity -- which meant if we wanted to have sex while living under his roof, we would find ourselves living on our own, as adults do.

At the time, being about 13, free clothes, free shelter, and free food on the table every day were more important than sex.

Later, in college, I stayed abstinent because of my Catholic faith, something that has grown increasingly stronger in adulthood.

Now, though? The reasons are so much more complete than a teenager's cost-benefit analysis or fear of Hell's fire. I've learned that abstinence until marriage is not just about me, but also my future wife. Waiting until marriage means sex will be more than a carnal pleasure, instead fulfilling a relationship that is based upon a deep love. And rather than put myself or sex partners through the emotional harm that comes from sleeping around, I will be working with my wife to bring us closer together, and hopefully "be fruitful and multiply."

People think of God as a cosmic killjoy who wants to keep us down. But life has showed me that God knows that what we want now is not always what's best for us -- and when I follow His guidance, life is a whole lot better.

Don't get me wrong -- I'm a guy. I wish I was married and having sex all the time. But it looks like God might reward my patience, since at least one study shows sex might actually be more enjoyable if I wait until I've walked down the aisle.

Until that point, though, I'll keep watching people go from cracking jokes to slack-jawed amazement. And wondering why it's okay for Miley Cyrus to "twerk" on national TV, but not having sex is so weird people lose their ability to speak.


Dustin Siggins

Dustin Siggins is the D.C. Correspondent for LifeSiteNews.com and a co-author of the forthcoming book “Bankrupt Legacy: The Future of the Debt-Paying Generation." He is a freelance contributor to National Review Online and Aleteia.org, and has been published by Roll Call, USA TODAY, Hot Air, and other publications. The opinions expressed are his own.