That is why a wife can understand -- not excuse, but understand -- that her husband can be a good man and slip up. Saints never weaken, men sometimes do. That is why some men who love their wives with all their hearts, who devote their lives to responsibly taking care of a wife and family for years, can without thinking (not to mention without love or a desire to hurt their wife) have sex with another woman one night.
A woman who leaves her marriage solely because her husband was sexually unfaithful is most likely making a grievous error. Such women should speak to the women who have called my radio show when I have discussed this subject, to tell me how profoundly they regret having ended their marriages solely because their husband had an affair. (I hold the same position regarding men leaving their marriage solely because of their wife's affair, but most women's affairs are far more emotionally involved, and
therefore marriage-threatening.) Years later, alone and with their family now forever broken, these women realize that their heart ("he betrayed me") and their pride ("no man is going to do that to me and get away with it"), not their mind ("my good man made a terrible error") or their values (marriage and family and forgiveness are infinitely better choices than divorce), led them to mistakenly end their marriages.
Vanessa Bryant, if your man is a good man and you love him, stay with him. We need more marriage in America, not more angry divorces. Especially in the NBA.