Marvin embodied more than an impressive resume and long list of celebrity friends. He may have been the most self-effacing person of great achievement I have ever known.
We met by accident, if you believe in such things. My wife and I were with the musical comedy and cabaret singer Barbara Cook at a post-performance party when he walked in. She introduced us and for me it was admiration at first sight. Though we came from different backgrounds and life experiences -- he a huge success in show business and me a Stage-door Johnny and musical comedy wannabe who "settled" for journalism because I had to make a living -- we hit it off.
We attended movie screenings and Broadway shows -- his and others. We ate together. He introduced me to some of his talented film and Broadway friends and because they knew I was Marvin's friend, I guess they tolerated me in spite of our political differences.
He would frequently call, asking for my opinion on various issues. His mind was a sponge, constantly soaking up information.
Marvin was fun and funny. While he was shy before people he didn't know, he would relax with friends.
One Thanksgiving, Marvin was to conduct an all-Irish show at The Kennedy Center in Washington. Among the performing artists was the Irish singer Mary Black, whom I had recommended to him. Neither had any holiday plans so my wife and I invited them to dinner. Marvin played football with our grandson in the backyard. As we drove him back to his hotel, we sang Broadway and classic rock and roll songs. Each spoken sentence in our conversation, reminded us of a song which we sang with gusto.
Recently he had a kidney transplant, which was known only to a few people. He told his wife, Terre Blair, he would rather die than be ahead of someone on a waiting list. He didn't have to worry. A close friend donated one of his own kidneys. Terre said the new kidney was functioning well, but complications from an unrelated condition drove him into a coma from which he never recovered.