Reality No. 2: Women, not men, bear children -- a task central to the survival of civilization, not to say the human race. There's no taint or shame in the historic division of sexual labor -- women working to preserve and maintain and build and grow, men also deputed to build and grow but specializing when necessary in the job of destruction. If that's not how we're constituted, how come nobody ever noticed before?
Reality No. 3: A fundamental male instinct is to protect women at all costs, to keep them out of harm's way when possible, when not to take a bullet for them. The instinct is embedded in human nature as revealed by the testimony of centuries. No honorable, generous, decent civilization would want to remove such an instinct even if it understood the surgical means.
Reality No. 4: We don't maintain a military for "workplace opportunity" purposes. We maintain it to defend the country. Social goals take a backseat to the goal of walloping our enemies, through the deployment of those most qualified to wallop them.
Ideologues, as the 20th century surely taught us, love to substitute the imaginary for the real, calling down up and up down, in service of their goals. Well, here they go again, deploring history's implication in a male conspiracy against the women's annihilation movement. If only they'd come up with some proof, but I guess it's too late for that. They just won the war.