The "homosexuality debate" in the worldwide Anglican Communion, which paid the matter little attention until three decades ago, is about how much authority the individual may rightly assume in his own personal arrangements and how much he should cede to his Creator.
Who's in charge here, God or us, is roughly the question. That the Bible, God's word, takes a high view of obedience to divine authority and a low view of what might be called I'll Do It My Way, is the real question, not whether to bless same-sex unions in Episcopal churches.
The media, with ample help from gay-rights exponents, helped perpetuate the notion that God was more bystander than participant in a controversy that was about rights and choices, not duties, not obligations, not responsibilities, not behaviors that advanced divine ideals as to the leading of life.
I wouldn't expect The New York Times to pull us (or want to pull us) out of this, our predicament of understanding. We'll go right on, doubtless, acting as though the Sovereign Individual trumped God -- or seeing the divine plan as constantly developing, like the news itself.
It's sad all the same. Few conservatives I know feel for most gays other than affection and brotherly (or sisterly) concern -- the same feelings they hope they themselves inspire. Few want to "bash" anybody or send anyone to Satan, the author of division, who must be smiling with satisfaction at the uproar going on among his supposed adversaries. Every last one of 'em.