Kids can truly achieve so much more when their father is present and active in their everyday lives. Studies have repeatedly shown that a two parent household with active parents is the key to a child’s development. Certainly many, many children of one parent households have gone on to great things, but they shouldn’t have to. The idea that a father’s presence is a luxury needs to change. Even if the parents divorce, a father should be present for every sporting event, every school activity, and all the ordinary moments that define a child’s early life. Divorce or separation is no excuse for a father to stay away or reduce his involvement in the children’s development. In fact, in the sad case of separation, a father should become more involved, because the children desperately need positive influences during divorce proceedings.
As we celebrate Father’s Day this year, we should praise the men who are true fathers - the men who willingly involve themselves in their children’s lives. We should thank them for their love and dedication, and be proud of their achievements. However, we must also call attention to the cowards who father a child but never become a true dad. We need to take a hard look at why these fathers run out on their families and abandon their children. We cannot lower our standards by ignoring these dead-beat-dads and considering them the norm. We cannot overlook the problem or sweep it under a rug. Our children are too important, and they need their father. If they are to reach their highest potential, it will be with the help of their father.