Schools must also come clean with parents about their safety records and security procedures. Indeed, under the Clery Act, federal law requires it and mandates certain penalties, including stiff fines and the loss of financial aid, if schools fail to comply. The new brochure notes that colleges must “provide timely warnings of crimes that represent a threat to the safety of students or employees and to make public their campus security policies.”

Why would such a law be necessary? Because college officials are naturally reticent to say anything “negative” about their schools. All public information is carefully choreographed to present a perfect image. But no place on earth is totally crime-free, and university campuses are no exception. In fact, they’re often worse than many suburban neighborhoods. According to Security on Campus, a group I had the privilege of working with in the 1990s:

Surveys by rape crisis centers have concluded that rape and sexual assault are commonplace on many campuses. One in 10 women will be raped during their years in college. Studies have revealed that 80 percent of crime is student on student. Alcohol is involved in 90 percent of college crime. Date-rape drugs are creating thousands of victims.

Security on Campus was founded by Connie and Howard Clery. The Clery Act is named after their daughter, Jeanne, a student at Lehigh University who was raped, tortured and killed by a fellow student. Like many moms and dads, these loving, wonderful parents lacked information about the lax security situation on their daughter’s campus. But they don’t want to see other children suffer the same fate, and other parents suffer as they have. So today, Security on Campus works to inform and empower parents -- and save lives.

My point is this: Parents do not become invisible partners when their kids enter college. Many colleges are mistaken about the law. They don’t know that the federal law allows colleges to give information about dependent students to their parents.

Thanks to Secretary Spellings and the Department of Education, we know otherwise. Don’t allow your son’s or your daughter’s school to intimidate you. And don’t assume that all of them are trying to leave you out. Many professors, teachers and administrators are just ignorant about the laws. Get the new brochure, arm yourself with the facts, and stay involved in the lives of your young, adult children. They need your guidance, care and love in college, too.