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Friday, December 08, 2006
Rebecca Hagelin :: Townhall.com Columnist
The track meet of life
by Rebecca Hagelin
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Each time they raise the bar, I hold my breath.

Just two inches higher makes all the difference in the world. Nick looks focused, tense and ready to take on the world as he sets his sights and energies on overcoming the new challenge.

For the last four years, I’ve spent most Friday nights on the edge of my seat at my son’s winter indoor track meets. And I love every minute of it. Nick is a senior now, and it makes my heart ache to think how few nights I have left to sit on hard bleachers eating cold pizza, writing columns (like I am now) on my Blackberry between his events, cheering for his friends (Chris, David and Ozzie -- also outstanding athletes and young men of great character) in their various races, and watching my son learn the value of healthy competition and grow in character as he experiences the exhilaration of victory and “the agony of defeat.”

Recently, Nick earned the rank of Eagle Scout. It was one of my most gratifying nights of this excellent venture called motherhood. It was my second time I felt the awe of one of my offspring reaching such an important milestone (our first-born son, Drew, earned his Eagle last year). After 10 years of concentrated work, rising to new levels and learning life lessons, my boys reached the peak under their loving father’s guidance. I am truly blessed to be the mother of these fine sons and the wife of such a committed husband and father.

Back at the track meet, Nick flies over the high bar at each new level. But he does so in other areas, too -- with his studies and in his real passion, visual arts. He works hard and excels at everything he does. Natural talent oozes out of him, and he pushes himself late into the night in the creation of fascinating and dazzling projects for his portfolio. Given that I can’t even draw a stick person and that my only physical ability is to “cut a rug” (sort of) on the dance floor every now and then, Nick’s talents in art and sports boggle my mind. He certainly didn’t get them from me.

My job as a mom is fairly straightforward. In addition to hopping up and down, screaming like a crazy lady with each effort and accomplishment, I must remind Nick that eventually, the bar will get too high. It always happens in the high jump, and it happens in the other areas of life, too.

Except one. The most important one.

The only area where there is no limit in reaching new levels is our relationship with God. And it also happens to be the only thing that is eternal.

How awe-inspiring that God places no limits on becoming closer to Him -- and that the riches that come with service don’t fade with age or time and can’t be lost or stolen.

It is critical to remind my son that our worship and service to God is often made manifest in our service to others. That the two greatest commandments -- to love God with all of our heart, and to love our neighbor as we love ourselves -- are also the most personally fulfilling aspects of our lives, the blessings of which are far greater than the tarnished first-place medals from contests long forgotten.

The Bible teaches us, “From everyone who has been given much, much will be demanded; and from the one who has been entrusted with much, much more will be asked” (Luke 12:48 NIV). It’s critical that Nick understand he is blessed in many ways -- he has natural-born talents not because he deserves or has earned them, but because God chose to grace him. Nick’s responsibility is to live his life to the fullest of his abilities, serving God and man above all else.

As the bar wobbles and crashes to the floor when raised just beyond the limit of his leap, may it serve to remind Nick that his true purpose in life is to soar in spirit, service and truth.

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Rebecca Hagelin is a public speaker on the family and culture and the author of the new best seller, 30 Ways in 30 Days to Save Your Family.
 
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Thank you Rebecca, and also AudiR10. Both the article and the comment have improved my day tremendously.

The other columnist I enjoy at Townhall is Kathleen Parker, but unfortunately she's acquired a following in her comments section that gets very nasty, so I've quit reading it. The contrast in atmosphere between her page and yours is a full 180.

Excuse me while I go get my 14-year old daughter, so she can read this wonderful column too.

Blessings,
Mary

A man's reach should exceed his grasp
or what's a Heaven for?

The most important lesson we can learn especially when we are starting out in life, is that there is no shame in failure if it happens due to reaching high. A very good book came out some time ago called "In Praise of Mediocrity" which in fact was about no such thing: it was about working to your best ability and then being happy when you achieved the best that is in you. I entered for skating medals after a series of lessons that brought home to me the fact that a lifetime of pond skating did not mean I knew anything at all about skating. I achieved the first two medals and then reached Novice, where I will remain forever because I cannot do back cross-overs. This does not mean I am a failure. I have achieved all i can achieve and I have those two medals! One of my friends has spent a lifetime learning to play the piano and she is technically pretty good but hopelessly unmusical. Yet she is content because she has tried to the limit of her talent and is able to enjoy her abilities.

In this day when kids especially are pressed to succeed, when we see advertisements of babies sitting on their Mama's lap learning that success comes from pressing buttons on a Baby Keyboard to make things happen on a screen, we should step back and regain our perspective on what it means to succeed. Yes, there can only be one Gold Medal. But if you try your best and you never win any medal at all, you are not a Loser.

Notice I am not saying that there should be no medals. I'm very proud of the two I have earned. But knowing that I'll never win another one has not ruined my life.

And you are so right that we must always keep the Parable of the Talents in mind. But when doing so, remember that God made no difference between the man with the five talents and the man with the two talents; both were rewarded for having made the most of what they had. It was only the guy who buried his talent in the ground and did nothing to enhance it that lost not only his talent but his Master's respect.

Children are generous by nature and should be encouraged from the time they first notice poverty to help when they can. My youngest was concerned from babyhood for homeless women and I always let him give his own money to any homeless person; he even shared his Happy Meal with homeless people on occasion, and would ask anxiously where they would sleep that night. He went with me to Ronald McDonald House and while I worked in the storage area sorting donations he 'played with the children' -- severely handicapped or very ill children in town to receive treatment at the local childrens' hospital, for whom playing was a matter of retrieving things they had dropped or talking with them about video games and television shows that both of them enjoyed. The older boy was a broad-vision type who would round up toys and buy crayonds and paper out of his own money to contribute to the Day Shelter because he was concerned that the children had nothing to do while their mothers who worked nights were asleep. Encourage this wherever it blooms. And never tell a child he is 'privileged' or 'fortunate'. We are all brothers and sisters and what we do for others is not a matter of guilt. It is simply what we do.
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