There's no question in my mind that every single person reading this book wants to fall into the third category of parenting described above. We all instinctively know that being that kind of parent will spare our own children - and spouses - much pain and sorrow.

So be that kind of parent.

Today, more than ever, it takes a real commitment to decide to be the mamma or the daddy - to determine that you will take control and be the one that permeates your home with tangible, unconditional love and sets uncompromising standards for yourself and your kids.

Far too many parents today have morphed into a fourth type of parent, the one who thinks that they have to be their child's friend. Oh, there's plenty of love and understanding and loads of fun and games. But when it comes to rules, to setting down the law, to standing up for standards and expected behaviors from your child, many parents today are sorely lacking.

Moms, Dads, your kids don't need you to be just another friend. They need you to be their parents.