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Friday, June 01, 2007
Mike Gallagher :: Townhall.com Columnist
A time to forego politics
by Mike Gallagher
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I’m about to put in writing four of the most dreaded words I’ve ever said out loud in my life. They are words that instill mind-numbing fear in the heart of any person who has a loved one who has gone down the path that my family and I are about to begin:

My wife has cancer.

Despite nearly 30 years in the communication business, it sure is hard to convey those four little words to anyone.

But talking openly about this shocking revelation was actually Denise’s idea.

My wife happens to be a strong, funny, loving, beautiful woman. Despite her fairly shy demeanor, she really doesn’t like to pull many punches. And during one of the many times that we were holding each other after the doctor’s phone call last week, my wife announced to me that we would not be hiding or skulking around as her surgery draws near.

“Nobody who faces cancer should have to be ashamed or stigmatized,” she said. In her typically optimistic fashion, she continued, “I’m going to get this crap removed and beat it. And it would be just fine with me if you share what we’re going through in case it might help others who are experiencing the same thing.”

I told you she is amazing.

Actually, she also knows that for a bigmouth like me, talking about this challenge we face is a fairly therapeutic process, too. You see, everyone in my immediate family – mother, father, sister – has faced cancer or leukemia. My Mom and Dad both died by the time I was 21 and my sister is a breast cancer survivor. So poor Denise knows better than anyone how terrified I am of “the big C.”

But somehow, her courage and openness is making this entire situation easier on all of us.

Maybe if you or someone you love is facing cancer, our story will make it a bit easier for you, too.

The phone call last week was ominous. A few days after a fairly routine medical procedure, the doctor’s voice on our voicemail at home signaled that something was definitely wrong. “Denise, please call me as soon as possible to discuss your procedure.”

It didn’t help that the doc had already told us that if she called us within a few days, something was going to be wrong.

Boy, something was wrong, all right. The medical folks discovered that my always-healthy wife has endometrial cancer, a cancer in the lining of the uterus.

We’re encouraged by the doctor’s optimism. “If you have to have cancer,” she said, “this is the one to pick. It’s slow moving and as long as its stage one, the hysterectomy will more than likely get it all.”

It’s surreal to go through our daily routine right now. We are blessed with wonderful friends and loving family, so that’s a big help. Our four sons have never really had anyone close to them face such a scary thing, much less their beloved Mama, so they’re slowly learning how to cope.

And the one constant, the powerful, driving force in all of this is Denise. She’s a lot more worried about us than she is herself.

Typical Denise.

I’m lucky to have a radio show and weekly column here at townhall.com where I can regularly interact with thousands of Americans. Perhaps you’ve agreed with some of my opinions, surely many have disagreed.

But I hope you don’t mind me asking you to forego partisan politics or ideology for a minute. I’ve never asked you for a favor, but I’m asking now.

I believe with all my heart in the power of prayer. I know the Big Guy has a lot on His plate right now, but I can’t help but think that if a bunch of well-meaning people send some prayers His way for a remarkable woman named Denise, it can only help. And if it’s His will that she beats this thing, it’ll happen.

Listen, I know I’m being selfish here. My wife is the single greatest thing that has ever happened to me and I don’t mind admitting that I would do anything for her, including asking anyone I come in contact with to pray for her.

So if you are so inclined, please do so. And while you’re at it, maybe you could send some positive thoughts and wishes to our sons and Denise’s parents.

We’re scared, worried, and confused. But confident that if anyone can fight this awful disease, it’s Denise.

And we’re both grateful that you’d allow me to share our story with you.

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Mike:
Your wife will truly be in my prayers. My mother just had her last trip to the doctor, and she is now good to go, having had a double mastectomy last year. My stepmother had hers ten years ago.

Be thankful that we're in America, since my mother's sister had breast cancer in England in the early 90's and didn't make it. She hired an American doc to help her but it was already too late.

And here's a little secret that helped my mother through: Cannibis.


Nobility and prayerfulness
Mike,

You can be sure that I and my dad, who is currently in remission from basal cell cancer of the throat, will pray for Denise.

Your call for everyone to pray for your beloved wife is not in any way selfish, it's noble. You are willing to trade in all the good will you have gained from your supporters, and bear all the ill will of your detractors for her. This is no small feat, as you have indicated from your writing.

To ask anything less from everyone would be selfish and inhuman.

I have to admit that I don't listen to your show unless I'm in someone else's car, but I absolutely agree with you here. This is something that must be prayed about, and we must all selflessly give our support to Denise, even if we agree with you (or Denise, who doesn't necessarily agree with you either) or not.

Our prayers will go with you and Denise and the boys. It's not just the patient that needs support.

God Bless,

-Robert

Denise and you both have my prayers
I, too, believe in the effectiveness of prayer.

Louie

Mike
Mike, my mother-in-law, 81 years of age, had surgery for colon cancer yesterday and came through wonderfully. You, your wife, and your family have all the best wishes, good thoughts, and prayers that my family can offer.

already done
Mike,
I started praying after the first paragraph. I remember how you always talked about Denise way back when you were on the air in the Albany,NY area. I will continue to pray also for you and your sons.

Sadly....
but hopefully praying for your wife and all victims of this insidious disease.

The only good thing that can possibly be said is that it truly does trump all politics and ideologies.

Mike
I will be praying for Denise and your family also. My mom had cervical cancer when I was in high school and breast cancer when I was in college. She is cancer free now, over twenty years later. Don't hesitate to lean on friends and family. That is what they are there for.

Mike
As someone in the same boat I will be thinking much of her and you. All the best!

Godspeed, my friend
Mike,

I just sent a prayer up for you, Denise and the rest of your family. As my mother and sister both succumbed to cancer, I feel your pain, apprrehension and fear. Know that you all are in my thoughts and prayers.

Godspeed.

Prayers up...........
for a good man, with an apparently fantastic wife.

I could tell you many, many stories but suffice it to say C A N C E R is N O T the disease it was, even a few years ago.

I know of many former patients who are now in remission, or cured and the number keeps growing. A very good friend is battling the disease now, winning, and this is only 5 years or so after his wife did the same. She is fine, he will be fine, and so will your wife.

Meet this challenge head-on. Our prayers will be with you and your family.

Down on our knees.
When my wife developed breast cancer, when a bone disease was ravaging my spine or when SLE lupus found me a 44 year old man at the time, there was no choice but to submit to the creator God who orders all things and to say "If this is what you think is best for my life, I ACCEPT IT". He is a sovereign God seeking intimacy with us and sometimes that requires putting us down on our knees. It would seem in our cases and in others I have noted, that once our will is resigned to living out HIS, that there is an extra measure of mercy from a God of grace given through his son, the Christ.
Praying for all y'all.

Thank you for speaking out on your faith
I've prayed for Denise and your whole family and I will again.When our daughter was in a coma and not expected to live after a car accident, I wore her photo name badge from work everywhere I went. In stores, elevators, restaurants, anywhere someone looked at it, I would tell them who she was, what was going on, and ask them to pray for her. Doctors didn't believe it when she woke up after five months. Hold on to your faith and don't let go. He is able to keep that which we have committed to Him.

praying
Mike,
Know that you and Denise and your family are being lifted up in prayer. May God surround you with His peace, strength and hope, may He fill you with courage and love, and may you find new joys in every day. God be with you.

MIKE.....................MIKE!!!!
My wife's two girl-friends had a cancer - and BOTH have recuperated!!! No traces!!! GONE!!!!!
Main "medicine"??? - positive outlook.
Laughter, best medicine.
Give her a hug and rent a comedy - at leat once/one a day.. :)
God be with both of you, dear friend.
Even an arrogant like me will pray for her - YES!!!

Mike, Denise and Family
I agree with Galvin Threndor who writes "Your call for everyone to pray for your beloved wife is not in any way selfish, it's noble. You are willing to trade in all the good will you have gained from your supporters, and bear all the ill will of your detractors for her. This is no small feat, as you have indicated from your writing."

My wife Barbara was diagnosed with breast cancer in February and has subsequently had a lumpectomy and is undergoing chemotherapy with radiation therapy to follow. We were married July 23rd, 2005. She has 6 children and I have 2 (one is deceased). She was an answer to my prayer that the Lord bring my a Godly woman.

When we found out, Barbara was shaken to the core as there were no indicators that she would be at risk for cancer. When she had spent some time coming to terms with having cancer, I realized what was bothering me besides the worry over her having the dreaded "C" word and that was that this was something I could not fix and it rocked my world.

But the Lord had other things in mind for us as well and that was the realization that He has raised up our church family and others to show their love by praying, bringing meals and in other ways. Through her family and mine we are on prayer chains across the country and in all of this the Lord has shown us both a joy that is beyond description. We both are well aware that this life is temporary and difficult at best. But seeing the Lord work in our lives and the lives of all of those that care for us is awesome. This walk has helped to bring us closer to the Lord and stronger in our faith. And more importantly the children see how our faith is growing and our heart's desire is to see theirs strengthened as well.

Please know that our prayers are with you and I will put you, Denise and your sons on our prayer chain. My prayer for Denise, you and your sons and your family is that you will see the joy of the Lord in your present walk and that the Lord will guide the hands of the physicians as they perform the procedures on Denise. We will also pray that the cancer is confined to the uterus and there will be no recurrence of cancer.

In the service of Jesus Christ our Savior,

Dennis and Barbara Laman

The power of Prayer

.....Mike ...

.....If you believe in the power of prayer ...your wife has mine .....COLOSSUS

Not time to forgo politics
When a loved one faces a life-threatening disease, the prospect of a Hillary Clinton presidency becomes all the more frightening. Socialized medicine will drastically reduce cancer survival rates.

MIKE
I too believe in the power of prayer. My prayers will be with you, Denise and your sons.

prayers answered...
God is already focusing our attention on the important stuff of life...our family.

God's blessings to you and your family.

Mike
My prayers for you and Denise will be on going. I have personally endured what you are going though and it is much more difficult than you would have ever expected. God Bless.

God Bless you all!
Good luck and God Bless! You all will be in my prayers too!

As a cancer survivor myself, I know that laughter, love, and prayer are all truly the best medicine!

(And Denise- if you need one- get a really hot lookin' wig! 2 or 3 in fact!)

I hope you don't mind
if a Mormon prays for you and yours.

I'm very sorry you all have to go through this. Best wishes for success in beating this, and may God give you the strength to endure.

"And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God" — Rom 8:28

The Lord Answers All
Mike,
May the Lord watch over your wife as she battles this disease. May he guide the doctors' hands during surgery and subsequent treatments. May he bring comfort to you, your sons and both your families. May he use this difficulty in your life to bring glory to Him and to bring others who may not believe to know Him and find his love and mercy. Take comfort in knowing that so many prayers are being offered in your behalf and that God's love conquers all things.
In Christ's name we pray, AMEN

Some scripture
I hope this scripture helps. For me it means that we sometimes have to deal with difficult things. Not because God has forsaken us or doesn't love us but because he is preparing us for greater things. I am sure you can read this scripture and provide your own interpretation.

Romans Chapter 5, verses 1 through 5
NIV: 1Therefore, since we have been justified through faith, we[a]have peace with God through our Lord Jesus Christ, 2through whom we have gained access by faith into this grace in which we now stand. And we[b] rejoice in the hope of the glory of God. 3Not only so, but we[c] also rejoice in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance; 4perseverance, character; and character, hope. 5And hope does not disappoint us, because God has poured out his love into our hearts by the Holy Spirit, whom he has given us.
[a], [b] and [c] "or let us"

been there
Cancer has stricken my family more than once and I understand what you are going through. Your wife is in my prayers for a full recovery. For the rest of the family, all are in my prayers too for the strength to see this through. Like Mom would say "cancer is not for sissies". God bless. - kathy

Denise
Absolutely, she will be on my prayer list!

The doctor is right, if she has early uterine cancer, she will be fine. Once gone, that's the end of it. Be hopeful, my mother beat it-- another friend beat it, Denise will too.

Denise
Mike,
god bless you, your wife and family. Like many others, I am a survivor (almost 50 years). My mother, father, my husband, and his mother also have had to face the big "C." Medicine has made great strides and I just know your wife will do well. My prayers and thoughts are with you all. Keep your chin up, and keep us posted.

Thank You
For the opportunity to pray for your wife and family. May God pour out His peace and healing upon this situation.

It has blessed me to see that your wife and family are foremost in your mind and heart.

Denise
My father in law is currently battling liver cancer. I hear where you are coming from, and my prayers are with you.

Mike
Consider it Done!

Knees down prayers up!
For Mike ,Denise, and family.

You and Denise are BOTH right...
She's right to ask you to talk about it and you're right to "forego politics" for at least a moment. I was apprehensive about reading comments attached to your article. I thought I might have to endure empathizing with you as you experienced "the Falwell treatment." Instead, I was pleased to see you and your wife showered with love and support... and prayer.

KUDOs to all who join you in setting aside politics for a season to unite in prayer for your family. I gladly join the chorus.


cancer
I was diagnosed with thyroid cancer at the age of 33 -- in the middle of a divorce and with a four-year-old child. Doctors inevitably told me it was "the cancer of choice." I thought: Did I choose this? I don't think so.

Your wife has the right attitude. Cancer is no fun but it's not a curse or a judgment and it's certainly not invincible. Protect your kids from fear as much as you can and let adults help you bear the burdens. Keep going.

I've been cancer free for 21 years now. I can't say it made me a wiser, nobler person. It made me a very tired person, and then I got better. I think it helps to imagine yourself looking back on this years in the future and saying to each other: What a scary time that was. Thank God we made it through.

Praying!!!
Mike, Denise, and family,

Prayers, prayers,and more prayers! You're on my prayer list. Lean on Christ and he will give you the strength you need.

My great aunt and mother are breast cancer survivors. They are testimonies to faith in their Savior.

Trust your doctors and love one another.

Of course we'll pray!
Our oldest daughter is a long-term cancer survivor and we're monitoring/treating a pre-cancerous situation with our youngest daughter.

This can be beat and the best way to start, as you already know, is with prayer. God bless Denise, you and all of your family.

God's Will
When we pray for God's Will to be done, our prayers are always answered.

And when the going gets tough, don't forget the Serenity Prayer.

Both of these lessons have worked real miracles in my life and the lives of many others I know.

Mike, Denise & family... my prayers are with you.

- John

Your wife and cancer
Right now trust in God and His almighty power is what is most important for all of you. I hope that your sons are believers also. If they are not, maybe this is just what they need to also realize we are not able to control the issues of our lives, only respond to them. The doctors told me and my husband, "if you live long enough, you will be affected by cancer of some sort." I am in a wheelchair because of an accident, but I know that inspite of all my present issues, cancer will probably affect me as well, since many of my family have suffered with it. However, I know that I can face the worst, because I already have and found that trusting Jesus to keep me, no matter what, is the most important truth there is. I may sound fatalistic, but I have face death, and know that one day, I will come to the end of my time on earth. Now I am working on being ready for the hereafter. Eternity sounds so glorious, when I read the Bible, that I can hardly wait to get there! My folks are already with Jesus and praising the Heavenly Father. My day will also come soon. That does not mean I am not busy here to make a difference in the lives of others, because I am very involved. However, preparation for eternity is always on my mind. Praying for peace and comfort for your whole family.

Our prayers
My hubby and I just prayed for you, Denise and your family, Mike and will continue to do so. We both lost our mothers to the monster, his over 30 yrs. ago and mine 20, in those days the treatment wasn't the same.
My daughter had stage one Melanoma removed from her chest in February so we know what you are experiencing. We also had our
prayer chains praying for her . Her last checkup showed up negative so we are hopeful and praising God for answered prayer. We will add Denise, you and your boys to our prayer chains also.
Nothing is impossible with God, don't give up.

Mike...
My prayers are with Denise, you, and your sons.

God bless you all and keep you all safe in his hands.

Mike

The Gallagher family
will be in my prayers. God grant you peace as you navigate through the trials awaiting you in the days ahead. Mike, it seems there aren't many families nowadays who haven't had one or more "visits" from cancer - thank heavens for modern medicine. God Bless you all!

Praying for you, Denise, and your family
Mike,

My prayers go out to you, Denise, and your family during this trying time. May God provide you with the peace that surpasses all understanding.

Cancer Recovery
Almost two years to the date I was diagnosed with colon cancer. When you hear that diagnosis you have two choices...run away from reality or face that this is where you are and trust that God will carry you through it. You can't dictate the outcome. At crossroads like this we must admit our frailty and trust in Almighty God to carry us. That is what I saw as my only choice in how to deal with this monster. Surgery removed my cancer as it will remove Denise's. God stopped the progression and I remain cancer free today. I pray that Denise will experience the same healing. May God bless you!

Surely He has borne our griefs
Mike, Denise, and family,

I am praying for you all. I recently lost my 19 yr old sister in a car accident, and one thing my pastor kept reminding us is that nothing can separate us from the love of God, Nothing. I pray that you are healed Denise, and one thing through all of this is to remember that it is OK to be weak. You are not meant to carry all the fear and pain. Isaiah 53:4 Surely He has borne our griefs (sicknesses, weaknesses, and distresses) and carried our sorrows and pains [of punishment]

Psalm 136:23
23 He remembered us in our weakness.
His faithful love endures forever.

God Bless you,


Denise, Mike, and Family
You all are in our prayers and to Denise, Our best wishes for a speedy recovery and may God Bless you and your entire family.
Gerald & Family, TN

Denise, Mike, and The family
You are in my thoughts and in my prayers.

God Bless!
Hi Mike
You are in my office everyday from 9-12 and from your sharing of everything in your life throughout the years I feel as if you and yours are part of my family. The big C has taken many that I love as well and I have three close family members who are cancer survivors. We are praying for you and Denise and the rest of the family. To quote you: may "God bless America" and to go further: may God Bless the Gallagher family! We love ya big guy!

The Big "C"
Mike:
My father, only brother and only sister had cancer. After 49years of marriage,my wife died of complications due to her disease of Multple Myelona(Bone Marrow Cancer).
I am 79 years old and I am living a good life, thanks in no small part, to the support of my four children and nine grandchildren
Your wife and four children appears to have made you a better man. My prayers and others will pull her through this horrifying experience
With love
Jack
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