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Tuesday, November 13, 2007
Maggie Gallagher :: Townhall.com Columnist
The marriage gap threatens the black American dream
by Maggie Gallagher
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In America, upward mobility is not only the dream, it's the norm. But in recent years Americans have worried: Is the American Dream about to die?

Don't write the obituary yet. A groundbreaking new study by Brookings Institution scholar Julia Isaacs brings us good news: Two-thirds of us who were children in the late-1960s have grown up to earn more (adjusted for inflation) than our own parents did at the same age. By 2006 the median family income of the adults in this study was $71,900, up 29 percent compared to the median income of their parents in 1968.

But the income gains are not equally shared. Between 1974 and 2004, the racial gap in median family income actually widened, with black family income dropping from 63 percent to 58 percent of the median white family income.

Why?

First consider personal earnings. Between 1974 and 2004, the incomes of white men dipped slightly from $41,885 to $40,081. Black men's personal earnings dropped more dramatically from $29,085 to $25,600. Meanwhile, white women's income quintupled from $4,021 to $22,030, while black women's personal earnings only doubled, from $12,065 to $21,000.

White men would be downwardly mobile, except that they support fewer kids than their fathers' did, and their wives earn far more. The number of angry white blue-collar males would be far higher, in other words, if they weren't married to pink-collar earning wives.

It's not hard to see storm clouds brewing in these stats. How long before stagnating white male wages create some kind of visible political backlash? After all, blue-collar guys don't have any more wives to send out into the workforce, and how many fewer kids can women have? Economic populism may not be dead, just sleeping.

But black women were already in the work force in large numbers by 1968, so the feminist revolution had less dramatic returns for black families. And for blacks, declining male wages interacted with the sexual revolution to create an intergenerational disaster for African-American children.

How big a disaster? Take as a proxy for the middle-class: American parents who earned in the middle quintile (or 20 percent) of Americans in 1968. More than two-thirds of white children in this income group grew up to earn more than their parents did at the same age. By contrast almost three-fifths of black children in the middle income group earned less than their parents did.

The American Dream plays a lot better in white than black.

The "marriage gap" between white and black plays a big part in this story. African-Americans are much less likely than their parents were (or than white adults are now) to be married. They are also more likely to have children outside of marriage than their parents were, or than white adults are today.

When 25 percent of children in a community are born outside of marriage (as among whites today) that's a serious problem. When almost 70 percent of children in a given community are born outside of marriage (as among African-Americans today) that's a tsunami blocking the intergenerational accumulation of human and social capital.

So far, the silence about the issue among our leaders is deafening. Hillary, Barack, Fred, Mitt, Rudy: Who will take up the challenge of reducing the marriage gap written so starkly in black and white? Who wants to rebuild the American Dream for all our children?

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Maggie Gallagher is a nationally syndicated columnist, a leading voice in the new marriage movement and co-author of The Case for Marriage: Why Married People Are Happier, Healthier, and Better Off Financially.

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I'm not sure if he has addressed this specific issue, but I think Gov Mike Huckabee has the strongest appeal to both pro-family, pro-marriage voters and to the Black community.

http://www.mikehuckabee.com/

How Very True
I think that the lack of fathers in the home is
the most dangerous situation that we have going
here in the U.S. on any number of levels.
And everyone, I believe, is aware that it is
the highest in black homes.

Ultimately, the solution is going to have to come
from the black community. Where are its spokes-
people? I hope that Obama will step forward in
a serious way and soon. I understand his
hesitancy. He needs the support of the black
community to win. It is yet to be discovered
whether rallying around the "married" family
in the black community will be a unifying factor
or a devisive one..

But it can come from other places too. Why isn't
it happening? I just don't understand. When
I was in college in the 1960's it was shortly
after the Civil Rights Movement and the black
family still seemed to be pretty strong. But
the men have done a disappearing act, on family
level & the economic levels.

When I see a black father with his kids I want to
go up and hug him, because he is really bucking
the trend, and he is representing the salvation
of the black race.


To viruddh
I'm afraid the solution cannot 'come from other places'.
In our climate of identity-politics, it is not possible for a person of another race to make definitive statements regarding the black community unless those statements are wholly conciliatory, placing all the blame elsewhere. Not even a black man can tell hard truth without clamor and acrimony -- see also Bill Cosby.


The American Dream cannot be achieved by
force.

The current subprime fallout was caused by an attempt to engineer that part of The Official American Dream that dictates that unless you Own Property, you are a Failure or at the best you are Deprived of The American Dream. This pressured people into lending money to people who were seen as Victims of Exclusion by the fact that they did not have this vital component of The American Dream -- and with promises that once they had it, they would be Happy, they would be Included and they would be One of Us. The fact that they were barely making ends meet in a rental property buttered no parsnips. The fact that they might have been perfectly content in a nice rental property -- pfui! BUY THAT PROPERTY! YOU CANNOT BE HAPPY OR INCLUDED UNLESS YOU BUY THAT PROPERTY! All Real Americans Must Own Property!

It did not work there and it will not work here.

You cannot guarantee people will be happy, and the continuing desire to force people into the Fifties Box with the lure of Happiness Guaranteed, if only they would Get Married, is stupid. The problems in the Black Community have nothing to do with wedding rings. They have chosen the way they want to live; what they need is settlement houses and practical nurses to explain to them how to live successfully with the resources and in the lifestyle they have chosen.

If we follow the same game plan that the subprime mortgage people are following, when millions of marriages in the Black Community begin to fail, the government will rush in to make sure these people stay married, no matter what it costs the rest of us. Yeah. Right.

To AudiR10
Hey, don't know if you received my response several days ago on the other board.

We are doing well here, by and large. I hope you and your loved ones are well also. The books you and others have sent are still circulating around and being read and enjoyed.

Except 'Atlas Shrugged'. Everyone who saw me with it got a sort of panicked expression; the size is daunting!

Thank you again for your kindness, my friend.

Making people stay married
It is not the job of government to MAKE people do anything. It is their job (i.e., we is they) to provide support to uphold what is in the best interests of a stable society. Strong families are the bedrock upon which society rests.

Tax breaks for marrieds are a good start. But, of course, libs will cry "discrimination."

Presenting classes in school that compare and contrast the different lifestyles open to all Americans can induce critical thinking that might lead to right decisions.

Getting Hollywood on board (dare we hope!) to make good movies that show stable families as the norm rather than a ridiculous anachronism would be great.

We must allow school choice in order to create competition in education. This would uplift our system and allow those trapped in failing inner city schools to escape. My husband was able to get a young man whom he mentored for 3 years into a public school for advanced students. This youngster would never have been able to do it without Charles' intervention. He is thriving now that he is among motivated students and teachers.

If I mention keeping marriage between one man and one woman I will create a firestorm so I won't go there (hee, hee.) There are many more ideas out there that can offer help to those who are married and would like to remain in their marriage. We just need the will, as a society, to head in that direction.

Bottomless Cycle?
Illegitmate births have been part of the black experience for several generations now and the cycle is self-perpetuating. I don't see a way out of it. If your grandmother was illegitmate and your mother was and you are, how can you relate to normal family life.

By the way, although black illegitmacy is at 70 %, the Hispanic rate is 50 % and the white rate is 25 %. The cycle is becoming a problem for all the races. And America's moral decline continues.

Moral decline
Jesus is the answer. But few people want to hear that or take the necessary steps to die to self so the Holy Spirit can take charge of their lives.

Definitely, the black community has to move in that direction. Tony Evans, head of the Urban Alternative in Dallas TX, is a shining beacon for the black community and many are listening.

Until the blacks, African Americans, or whatever they choose to call themselves, make an earnest effort to get an education and get over the victim mentality, they will not be able to break the downward spiral.

Martin Luther King would weep if he could see what has happened to the civil rights movement he so couragously initiated.

Fatherles black families got started....

....under government egress. The welfare the great society started to alleviate black families was based on "no father in the home". Government employees who visited homes to check things out often saw/heard the old man running out the back door so as to not lose the welfare.

Well, it wasn't long before "mama" didn't need papa, and papa saw the light and lit out. These are the strange and very wrong workings of "givernment", and why the Giverment should stay the h&ll out of people's lives. The more they help, the more they hurt. Just how much hurt do our socialists want to do to this country. Black families were never and have never been stronger than prior to the 1960's. So much for the grand schemes of socialist governments, ours.


Fatherless
(sic) fatherless was intended in the previous post.

.....and by the way "Derek Leaberry's" warnings about the other races is extremely pertinent. The snow ball rolling down hill is getting larger and larger. Socialists rejoice. You have it made. The future USA will be nothing more than a shadow of the former USA, and will look very much like the old soviet union.

And capitalist one worlders, you can start crying anytime now. Your grand children will be nothing but pawns and has beens of what will be.


who is listening?
I think I can speak on this issue FAR better than Maggie Gallagher can.
I don't appreciate extremes of opinion without mention of legitimate realities in the middle that have intervened on the mobility of blacks in America.
I've lived that life. But I have found that when someone speaks on their experience and knowlege, however intelligently and without emotion, no one is listening...too busy countering the statement with their own complaints.
Or they are quick to deny or jam with complaints that you're not clear enough. When the truth is, no one cares.
They don't.
When a black person, or gay person reaches out to inform and look for common ground, no one cares.
So, now...Maggie G is too late too.
Our society waited too late to decide on the legitimacy of black love, lack of a strong foothold during economic downturns, and the potential in black children.
Sure, black folks have a lot to answer for. But on the other hand, had little help in doing so WHERE IT MATTERED, starting with LISTENING.
I'm seeing the same mistake made in handling gay folks among us.
No one listens to gay folks WHERE IT MATTERS, now.
And Maggie G, just made the case for marriage between gay couples.
The point is, had someone listened when something more substantial could have been done, we'd see less problems in general.
But....who cares? Who ever REALLY did?


du
I think that you are falling into the trap of:
"Sex sells...", "if it bleeds, it leads", etc.
wrt to the media-
Blogs and the Internet have leveled this field.
We do listen and we do care....the frustration is understandable, but don't believe for a moment that these matters are not heard.

du
You miss the point of this article, and your attitude is the cause of what you say is missing.

First, the liberals have been the ones that kept you on the plantation with the victim mentality. They encouraged welfare, which you received in housing aid, food stamps, special aid programs for women, affirmative action, etc. What they did not offer was self-respect and the benefits of responsibility.

Second, you bought into the lie that conservatives don't care, its just whitey trying to scam you, and you still are saying it. The truth is that conservatives warned you that all these social programs meant little without the self-respect and a sense of responsibility.

So, you rejected conservatives because how could blacks be conservative? You accepted the liberal argument because your black leaders told you to, you continued to vote liberal, and look at what you wound up with.

Now the black conservatives are speaking out, and the black liberals cry Uncle Tom! So, what can you do?

You should realize that the liberals and your black liberal leaders sold you out. Jesse Jackson and Al Sharpton use uyou to make money. You should also recognize that black conservatives are not Uncle Toms, they are showing you the way out.

Stop rejecting excellent advice from Bill Cosby, Star Parker, Walter Willams, Michael Steele, Harry Jackson, and many others who want their fellow blacks to do well. For the record, a white guy like me wants you to do well also.

Who cares? A lot us care! Who isn't listening? You aren't!

may I add, Mr Oliva
...if du is black AND gay,
he could be struggling with that "sell-out" label that will be attached---
then he will really have to answer the question, "...who's listening"

du
I don't want to pile on you here. But here is a thought worth thinking about. I think most of us have to learn this one the hard way, usually as teenagers or people in our 20s.

When we feel like we're failing and things aren't going right, it's never the case that WE are in trouble because EVERYONE ELSE has failed to change.

This is the most liberating and empowering realization we can come to. You have correctly identified the fact that none of us can "make" other people listen. But we CAN govern what we ourselves do. We don't have to waste our lives feeling dissed and dismissed because other people didn't listen.

One more great thing I've learned. Before I achieved any form of responsible, adult success, I didn't have anything to say that was worth hearing. I mainly complained a lot. Listening to me complain was a charitable act on the part of my long-suffering mother -- not something anyone else should have been required to do. Listening to me would not have benefited them in any way; and I'M fortunate that I wasn't encouraged to waste my time speaking negative words on a regular basis.

But listening to others, myself? Listening to people who HAD achieved adult success -- whether vocational, spiritual, or monetary? Pure gold.

Jesus is the answer?
Oh yes, there are so many single parents at my synagogue! Not! With 80+% of Americans claiming to be Christians, we should have an out-of-wedlock birthrate of no higher than 20% if Jesus is the answer.

Maybe black women are looking at the black men available to them and deciding they're not worth it. I mean, someone above mentioned welfare, what welfare frequently did is simply out-compete the community's men because they were such bad husband material that the money from the government was superior. Now with women earning enough to support themselves and their families, maybe the men still don't measure up. In essence, maybe what these women are deciding is that they want children, but they want to be choosy about their spouse.

Maybe
"Maybe black women are looking at the black men available to them and deciding they're not worth it."

Maybe there are a whole lot of White women who feel the same way.

I happen to be one of them. I have found one in my life that I would have been happy with, and his father rained curses on my head to drive me away. He also, as it happens, drove his son away (he has not been home since) and every word of those curses has boomeranged back and fallen on him. His mother is a wonderful woman and we still correspond; she is now staggering under a huge burden as her husband is dying and her father is bedridden due to a couple of strokes. Had she stood up for me, or had her spineless son, I would today be there for them both.

Be careful when you hurl curses in the air. They may fall to earth and stab you right in your goolies.

I decided after that experience that it's just not worth the bother. And I set to work living happily ever after.

Perhaps the enterprising Black girls can do the same if we study Gertrude Himmelfarb and go back to settlement houses and community nurses and sisterhood of the truest sort.

P.S. Thanks, Tali2Long; if you guys want or need anything that can go through the mail, let me know.

a couple things that were hinted at
While your overall point seems very good, there are a couple things you missed pointing out. (Perhaps this was deliberate, as you have limited space, but it bears mention in comments, at least.)

First, it is noteworthy that the average black women today earn very close to what white women earn. The reason their salaries have increased less is that they earned more to start with.

Second, while it may be that "families" today earn more than "families" did in 1968, this comes with a huge price-tag. In 1968 there was only one wage earner in the family, while today most women feel they "have" to work. The toll this takes on the families and on society in general cannot be overlooked. We are over-stressed, under-volunteered, and our kids are under-raised because nobody is home to do these things.

Maybe we earn as much, but we have suffered a great cost to do so.

Onceamarine
"Fatherles black families got started....under government egress. "

This is an extremely simplistic argument and will
cure nothing.

Just for the record, we probably had our most
socialistic government in this century, prior
to the 1960's. At least so I am told on TH
constantly. You know, the Roosevelt thing.

thanks for your comments, but....
DYERJE: I didn't say that in the context of someone listening to COMPLAINTS of something doesn't go a certain way.
What I'm talking about is listening so that a person can sound out to themselves what their next move can be or derive a kind of teaching moment from simply TALKING IT OUT.

What a lot people fail realize is that although instituional racism no longer exists, there are other kinds that can be just as devastating and it's only human nature when mystified by certain outcomes, to invest time in finding out why. Other racial types don't always have to deal with such a preoccupation, but it many of us can and DO move on and succeed despite what can and does happen that's difficult.
Simply having someone acknowledge there is a problem and perhaps having helpful support instead of criticizing or accusation of oversensitivity would help. Denying that there ARE more subtle racial problems or asserting that black people look for problems where there are none, isn't fair and doesn't help relate on a more efficient level. It turns everything away from progress.

Assume nothing...just listen. It's a way to solve a problem too, not just a matter of complaining.

it's all part of that process...
So it's unfair to call someone needing to do EXACTLY what you suggest Dyerje, a matter of complaining. It is possible to also seek out the successful, the determined and a mentor and at the same time, talk about experiences that WERE bad racial encounters as a problem solving or coping mechanism.
I've done ALL those things, and have reached some success in some areas, and devasting losses in others.

And working at NOT having any repearts or more of the same happening I cannot dwell on, NOR ignore those experiences either.
It's going to be different for me, because it has to be, the way I approach certain situations. I can't pretend I'm not what I am, nor can I ignore that I will have perceptions of me distorted because of it.

The rant from Dog the Bounty Hunter and other privately recorded comments, even in corporate boardrooms should tell you. A lot of people ARE racist, doesn't change how hurtful it is. Nor is it's impact lessened simply because it's under most people's radar now.

Beverly
"Making people stay married
It is not the job of government to MAKE people do anything. It is their job (i.e., we is they) to provide support to uphold what is in the best interests of a stable society. Strong families are the bedrock upon which society rests.

Tax breaks for marrieds are a good start."

No, they are not. It is NOT the role of government to encourage marriage or to dictate lifestyle choices. The government needs to stay the hell out of our personal lives! Whether single or married, all should have to pay the same tax.

Mary C.
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