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I don't think much of McGreevey. He is obviously an ambitious man and I'm not at all supportive of him.

However...we cannot ignore the concept of passing. I have to remind you all of the historical context of passing.
It's understandable, given the institutionalized discrimination that gay people face, whether they are having sex or not.

Passing is done by other individuals to be able to achieve just the basics in freedom and human rights.
But look at the posts by one extreme like Kathy to the other when ANY issues regarding gays and lesbians is discussed.
There is too much cafeteria information being disseminated without the MAIN INGREDIENT that infuses EVERYTHING about the integration of gays and lesbians in every day life.

The straight world in part IS at fault for the mixed marriages between one straight and one gay spouse.
You KNOW that from youth, gay children are taught they can change, that marriage or sex with someone of the opposite sex will cure or change the urges to be gay.

You KNOW you treat gay people like that! You say it over and over again.

And when it causes disasters like McGreevey or any and every other situation similar to his, you blame the gay person as being deceitful and selfish.

There is correlation and causation that stems from the homophobia that McGreevey was born into.
Could he have reached the level of governor if he'd lived his life ALL ALONG as a gay man?
Can anyone gay really be honest with you without some kind of admonishment?

No.
Can a gay child be honest with his family, educators or pastor...without the hammer of judgement coming down on him?
When YOU say the only hope is for a gay person to pretend they aren't...taking it all the way to marrying straight and bearing children, did YOU really give him ANY OTHER CHOICE not to?

Did you really?

McGreevey is just the most public instance, and very often groups like Focus on the Family and the Family Research Council are quick to exploit the straight spouses left after a divorce from someone gay.
They aren't above and beyong fostering bitterness and many courts take the children away from the gay parent in as cruel a fashion as possible.

You don't ask yourselves, that if he'd been able to live HONESTLY as a gay person, would all this mess had happened.

Straight people make a mess of gay lives every day. Arrogating themselves with the rationale that it's godly to do so.
Well, good work doesn't make a mess.
Godly and moral acts don't create divorces, violence and other forms of threat and fear against gay children.

Straight people make these messes of gay lives, and don't even have the stones to take responsibility for their part in it OR ask how such messes can be prevented.
And THEY CAN be prevented. They CAN.

But have you EVER asked anyone other than the most biased straight people among you how that can happen?

I doubt it.
Maggie Gallagher doesn't know a thing about gay people. She knows NOTHING.
And only selects the most prurient of stories to make her case.

Prurience regarding gay lives is hers and your stock in trade.
You're only fooling yourselves.
Gay folks know you better than you know them.

And women like McGreevey's wife and kids pay the price.