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Tuesday, May 08, 2007
Maggie Gallagher :: Townhall.com Columnist
Only in New Jersey
by Maggie Gallagher
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This week, Dina Matos McGreevey filed court papers accusing former Gov. Jim "I am a gay American" McGreevey of extreme cruelty, fraud and libel, for concealing his homosexuality in order to marry her. And so the McGreevey saga continues.

I'd say "only in America," but I suspect this is a story that could happen only in New Jersey.

Imagine: You are the governor of New Jersey and (by your own account) you're having sex with a young man behind your wife's back. The young man in question describes it as nonconsensual sexual harassment, but never mind. The feds are closing in on indicting your fundraising pals, one of whom even claims you arranged a special code word, "Machiavelli," signalling that they had a deal, the deal being: You pad their pockets with public funds in exchange for their donating campaign cash.

Jihadists have just recently blown up the Twin Towers, orphaning thousands of New Jersey children. The country's at war. You're taking time out to have anonymous sex in public restrooms (Or was that earlier? The timeline is murky). Rumors about your randiness are apparently rampant, so rampant you now claim your wife had to know that you were gay when you married. (She was asking for it, see? Somehow with these powerful men, it's always the woman's fault). So Dina didn't know you would be bleeping the boy toy in the marital home while she was in the hospital recovering from the birth of your child, but, hey, what did she expect when she agreed to become your own little Jackie Kennedy?

Suddenly it all blows up in big type. The one indisputable fact -- you are the man who let your lust decide who should head up homeland security in New Jersey -- is suddenly on the front page of every newspaper.

What do you do? First, you ask your wife to smile and look supportive at the press conference in which you will announce that (A) you are resigning, and (B) you are a gay American. Then you write a book, naturally, explaining how sorry you are for your mistakes, but homophobia made you do it. Leaders of groups like the Human Rights Campaign and Garden State Equality enthusiastically endorse your narrative.

But what do you do next? If you're Jim McGreevey you do this: You try to stiff your wife out of as much money as you can, naturally. You can live in luxury with a very rich boyfriend, postponing the job of earning the big bucks you might have to give your wife a piece of. You've got to keep the net worth down until the divorce is over, see? So you work a little on the side, teaching "ethics and leadership" (I kid you not) to future MBAs at a public university in New Jersey. This nominal income (about $17,000 a year) will allow you to pad your pension for years at taxpayer expense without driving up the old alimony, see? Continued...

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Maggie Gallagher is a nationally syndicated columnist, a leading voice in the new marriage movement and co-author of The Case for Marriage: Why Married People Are Happier, Healthier, and Better Off Financially.

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hey Kathy...or any others
Hey Kathy...or any others of those eager to scroll Scripture or religion in to and EVERY discussion regarding gays and lesbians.

If someone admits to you that they are divorced...are you equally eager to blast them with religious admonishment the way you do towards gay people?
Every time, each time?

Do you want to?

From experience I know...those that attend church the most, sometimes are so very cruel to a person when they are having their worst troubles.
You're not listeners...you are lecturers.
You'll abandon the prime directive when you think there will be no repurcussions from it.

And I'm not the only one that can see the cafeteria style in which you feel safe to be that way.
Patriotism might be the refuge of scoundrels.
But sometimes it's not hard to see who makes piety look like the refuge of cowards and bigots.
Are you SURE you know what you're doing?

Look up prejudiced in your dictionary, instead of a rationalization for it in Scripture. As previous BAD CIVIL law was proscribed against NON CRIMINAL MINORITIES before.





oh boy....
I don't think much of McGreevey. He is obviously an ambitious man and I'm not at all supportive of him.

However...we cannot ignore the concept of passing. I have to remind you all of the historical context of passing.
It's understandable, given the institutionalized discrimination that gay people face, whether they are having sex or not.

Passing is done by other individuals to be able to achieve just the basics in freedom and human rights.
But look at the posts by one extreme like Kathy to the other when ANY issues regarding gays and lesbians is discussed.
There is too much cafeteria information being disseminated without the MAIN INGREDIENT that infuses EVERYTHING about the integration of gays and lesbians in every day life.

The straight world in part IS at fault for the mixed marriages between one straight and one gay spouse.
You KNOW that from youth, gay children are taught they can change, that marriage or sex with someone of the opposite sex will cure or change the urges to be gay.

You KNOW you treat gay people like that! You say it over and over again.

And when it causes disasters like McGreevey or any and every other situation similar to his, you blame the gay person as being deceitful and selfish.

There is correlation and causation that stems from the homophobia that McGreevey was born into.
Could he have reached the level of governor if he'd lived his life ALL ALONG as a gay man?
Can anyone gay really be honest with you without some kind of admonishment?

No.
Can a gay child be honest with his family, educators or pastor...without the hammer of judgement coming down on him?
When YOU say the only hope is for a gay person to pretend they aren't...taking it all the way to marrying straight and bearing children, did YOU really give him ANY OTHER CHOICE not to?

Did you really?

McGreevey is just the most public instance, and very often groups like Focus on the Family and the Family Research Council are quick to exploit the straight spouses left after a divorce from someone gay.
They aren't above and beyong fostering bitterness and many courts take the children away from the gay parent in as cruel a fashion as possible.

You don't ask yourselves, that if he'd been able to live HONESTLY as a gay person, would all this mess had happened.

Straight people make a mess of gay lives every day. Arrogating themselves with the rationale that it's godly to do so.
Well, good work doesn't make a mess.
Godly and moral acts don't create divorces, violence and other forms of threat and fear against gay children.

Straight people make these messes of gay lives, and don't even have the stones to take responsibility for their part in it OR ask how such messes can be prevented.
And THEY CAN be prevented. They CAN.

But have you EVER asked anyone other than the most biased straight people among you how that can happen?

I doubt it.
Maggie Gallagher doesn't know a thing about gay people. She knows NOTHING.
And only selects the most prurient of stories to make her case.

Prurience regarding gay lives is hers and your stock in trade.
You're only fooling yourselves.
Gay folks know you better than you know them.

And women like McGreevey's wife and kids pay the price.

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