Two of my oldest and closest friends are observing Thanksgiving this year in
the middle of chemo treatments that, upon completion, will have prepared them
for major surgery. I have known Tom since 1978. Tim was my roomate in law
school. Tom is 58, the father of three wonderful children, and husband to a
wonderful wife. Tim is 49, also married an extraordinary woman, and they have
five fantastic kids.
This time next year Tom will have a new liver and Tim will have a new
bladder, and both will join the long list of cancer survivors in my life, including
two sisters-in-law and about a dozen middle-age men who have been down the
prostate cancer road and back already. (My wonderful assistant's husband Mike
just had that surgery this week, to add another to the list of cancer comeback
stories.) The ranks of cancer survivors are vast and growing, and each recovery
becomes another story to inspire and motivate others.
But there is no denying that recovery is a very hard road. It drains but
does not demoralize; pains but does not overcome.
If you can make time and space for Tom, Tim, and Mike on your prayer list
this Thanksgiving, I am sure they would be grateful. Tom and Tim are great
Catholic men, leaders in their church, old -school division. Tim's the coach of
every team and member of the parish council. Tom's the ever-active fundraiser
for a hundred different charities. Mike's a terrific dad and supportive of his
family, and while I don't know his faith life, prayers for him will be
well-received.
All of the people I know who have developed cancer in the past few years are
really and truly wonderful people. The two I know best, Tom and Tim, are in
the top rank of good men I have known in my 51 years. It is hardly fair that
they have to fight this battle. Tim, for example, is probably the
healthiest guy I know, an old marathoner who qualified for Boston on his first
try in law school, and who has always had a body fat of next to zero thanks to
his health-consciousness that borders on fanatic. Tom has done extraordinary
things for the sick, even wheeling a cart at Lourdes to deliver a pilgrim to
the shrine.
But cancer is not fair, nor life for that matter. Both of these men have
refused pessimism or bitterness, embraced the strenuous recovery regimes
prescribed for them, and never fail to encourage their friends and families about the
future. They and we are thankful this day for the incredible
medical advances of the past thirty years in the treatment of this disease, and in
the incredible health care system that is open and serving the sick in the
U.S.A.
But they are also thankful for their faith and an understanding of God that
allows them to glimpse purpose in suffering, especially undeserved suffering.
They have a great model for that in former White House Press Secretary Tony
Snow, also fighting his own battle against yet another form of cancer. A friend
forwarded me one of Tony's statements on his illness, which I reproduce here
for your convenience. It is an encouragement to all who are struggling with
health or other problems as the holidays arrive. Tony Snow is a great
communicator, and in this essay for Christianity Today he is addressing the most
important topic of all. Keep him as well in your prayers this Thanksgiving Day.
Some key paragraphs from Tony's testimony:
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