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Leadership by a Strong woman

Encouragement done correctly is like organic fertilizer to the soul. It softens the soil it increases the nutrients it allows the one whom is being nurtured to grow. Adults need encouragement as much as children. The harshness of tounge is one thing the denying compliments is another. I have had strong willed lady bosses who knew when and where to place the praise when to crack a joke and when to issue a subtle order. Racheal Williams was dear old mom...you never crossed her she could ram a large dagger into your back. Yet she never asked any person to do something she would not do. In chaotic situations SHE WAS IN CHARGE. The fact that she did not nag meant when she issued a terse command it rolled off her lips like thunder. When a subordinate betrayed the trust and team spirit things happened. She would suspend those the attitude how dare they betray us I will take care of it. She would personally would tell abusive customers where to go and that she would gladly call the cops. HOW DARE SOMEBODY TREAT HER CREW WITH PROFANITY. I would harldy call her a weak woman. She applied encouragement. She inspired quiet trust by her subordinates. Those of us who worked for her were almot fanatical in our devotion to her. She did some of the most disgusting tasks at the restaurant from time to time. She lead by example. You can be quite strong without being toxic. She in another era would have been called a Great Dame.

Ladies if you want to drag someone with you and someone to be loyal to you and to do what you say and not to complain about being dressed...get a dog.

Men are no less human beings then women are. Maybe we feel more secure if the house remains unchanged for long periods of time? Maybe that stability builds security? Shawn Colvin's "You Are In the Arms Of Angel" shows what men desire. There is a country song that states "I got a good woman and we got a good fire going" it is those moments when a woman who is adored as a friend a lover and soul mate illicit the greatest praise from a man. Trust me the seat will go down. A woman who knows how to nurture might be going through the radio and on a talk station hearing her man brag about how good she is! He will find himself dilligently trying to study with great effort how to make her world better and how to bring a smile to her face. A smile of contentment an expression of thanks and pleasure by her will be music to his ears and honey to his soul. A woman who lets him play with the boys some. A woman who lets a man dress up at times without the most fashion sense. A woman who will not nag all the time about his diet. This is a desireable woman.

I had a cat once. She was demanding but she was sweet about her demands. When her demands were met she was affectionate and warm. She made no secret what her wants and needs were. She also made no secret her pleasure when they were met.

If only some human beings would be as smart.