Dear Dave,
My boyfriend has a lot of debt. The other day a creditor called, and he wouldn’t answer the phone. Then, he told me it would be easier for him to pay off his debts if we were married because I could act as his accountability partner. I don’t want to be the money cop, and I wonder if he would truly be more motivated. What do you think?
Janine
Dear Janine,
Someone who isn’t making any headway in getting out of debt while they’re single probably isn’t going to do a complete turnaround just because they get married. I mean, you can act as his accountability partner if you want, but you don’t have to get married to help him out that way. In fact, dating is probably a better way to do this because you can determine whether he’s really changing or if he’s just trying to get you on board to help him pay his bills!
Don’t misunderstand, Janine. Debt, in itself, doesn’t keep someone from being marriage material. But you’re definitely not marriage material if you don’t work, you’re irresponsible, you haven’t taken control of your life, have no character or can’t manage your own behaviors. These kinds of people are going to stay in debt and not be able to pay their bills for the rest of their lives. And if you marry someone like this, they’ll drag you around and through all that mess, too!
I’d say date this guy a little longer, just to see if he’s serious about changing. But don’t get engaged yet, and don’t pay one penny of his bills for him!
- Dave
Dear Dave,
I just received notice that my homeowners insurance is about to increase $200 because my FICO score dropped. I recently became debt-free, so I know this score will continue to drop. I’m very confused and angry about this. What should I do?
Shelly
Dear Shelly,
I don’t blame you for being mad. This is an absurd thing that’s happening in the insurance industry.
The majority of low FICO scores are because the people attached to them don’t pay their bills or don’t pay them on time. But people who don’t have any debt – like you and me – have to pay the price because according to their rules no debt equals a low credit score.
I would tell them that an increase in my premium of $200 is a strong indicator that I’m going to find another insurance company – AND that they can go jump in the lake! I think I’d also get in touch with an independent insurance broker, and let them try to make a market for you.
Do everything you can, Shelly, to keep from giving your business to a company like this! Continued... |