If I had a personal finance mantra, it would be something like "Plan for the future." I'm constantly urging people to save for the proverbial rainy day, to invest for long-term goals like college for their children and retirement for themselves.

But today I want to talk to you about an understandably much less popular (but equally important) topic -- estate planning. Certainly none of us wants to think about our own demise, but in order to truly take care of your loved ones it's essential that you make sure your assets are dispersed in a way that minimizes hassles, maximizes their utility, and embodies your own personal and financial values. Here's how to get started.

-- Plan first ... Start by figuring out what you need to do and what you want to do with your assets after your death. For many people, these choices will be simple: You'll want to provide for your spouse and your children. Things can get more complicated for more complex family situations, such as people with families from previous marriages. Of course, you'll probably have material goods you want to pass on from things with real economic value (a second home or an antique car) to things with purely sentimental value.

Supplement these particulars with a list of more general objectives as well. Your legacy, after all, is not just the tangible stuff you leave behind but also the values and ideals you leave behind. What, for example, would you hope your children might learn from your will? I know of a man who made a sizeable donation to his alma mater in his will -- a powerful testament to his fervent belief in the importance of education.

-- Then discuss... Of course, it's one thing to make a bequest in your will or a trust. It's quite another to turn that bequest into an object lesson for your loved ones. The man I'm talking about made it crystal clear, in conversations with his children long before he died, how much he valued education and how much he hoped they'd do the same. I suspect that was a lesson they took to heart, and probably replicated in their own way when they had the means to do so.

Once you've outlined the basics of your plan, it's worth discussing them with the key people your decisions will impact before you go through the legal process of formalizing those plans. Obviously, you'll need to use discretion and judgment; talking about your wishes with your wife and adult children is important, but you'd probably not bring it up with young kids. Be prepared for some resistance, particularly from your kids; they really don't want to contemplate a world without their parents, and who can blame them? (Of course, they might also be resistant if your wishes don't coincide with their expectations!) Just stress that you want them to know and understand your desires and the rationales behind them. It can't lessen the pain of your death, but it can help avoid resentment or disappointment.

Most small estates are not likely to breed resentments or disappointments. It's hard for anyone to complain, for example, if you divide your estate equally among your children. But it is possible that you want to treat different heirs in different ways. Some people, for example, have given responsible children lump sums and more profligate children income-generating trusts. Explaining your reasoning to them before your death should mitigate any problems.

-- Then Make It Legal. Once you've decided what you want to do with your assets, and you've discussed your plans with the people who matter, it's time to make things legal. Continued...