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Tuesday, September 26, 2006
Bill Murchison :: Townhall.com Columnist
Pollution of the verbal sort
by Bill Murchison
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The great state of Texas' seegar-puffing poseur of a gubernatorial candidate, Kinky Friedman, is in trouble over a comedy skit from 25 ago years wherein the future candidate employed something commonly known as "the n-word." Calls for his withdrawal from the race, if not for the immediate application of tar and feather to his person, have duly gone forth.

The immediate furor will die down, but the appropriately named Kinky -- offbeat author and entertainer -- will find himself even farther from the Governor's Mansion door than before, which was pretty far, actually. Only reason for bringing up the whole episode, so far as I can see, is to remark on what's happened lately to public standards.

What's happened is that all our present standards are political rather than cultural, the way they used to be.

I'll explain. Thoughtless use of "the n-word" -- long forbidden, and rightly so, to well-brought-up Southern youths -- can still sabotage a political campaign in Texas, just as Virginia Sen. George Allen's use of "macaca" to deride an ethnic Indian dogging his campaign appearances has clouded Allen's once bright prospects for re-election. Nobody but nobody -- even a veteran jester like Kinky -- wants to be seen as disparaging a non-Anglo-Saxon race, or for that matter non-heterosexuality, now that "diversity" is among the supreme political goods.

What of the culture, even so?

Seen any movies lately -- "Jackass 2," for instance? Watched "The Sopranos"? Eavesdropped on any Gen-X or Gen-Y conversations? No verbal taboos in venues such as these. None.

Whereas in days of old, use of " bad language" in "mixed company" was out -- way, way out -- today it seems de rigueur; the expected thing. You hear in public settings the sort of language that once brought forth exclamations like, "Watch your language," or, "Excuse me, ma'am."

It was always "ma'am."

A gentleman -- for the term was not yet applicable to males in general -- was presumed to have obligations toward women, as toward fellow gentlemen who didn't hold with verbal pollution.

That's what I mean by the standards of that day being "cultural." They applied to almost the whole of life. Of which politics was a part, and by no means the largest part.

People cared in some degree about the "tone" of life -- whether it was coarse, offensive, rude. On such grounds, no small number of Southern parents specifically outlawed "the n-word." It was all those things -- coarse, offensive, rude. We weren't going to have it.

Nor will we have it now -- mainly, however, for political, not cultural, reasons. Ethnic put-downs are out because ethnic power-sharing is in. Three or four decades ago, amid Vietnam and Watergate turmoil, politics shoved aside cultural considerations, such as concern for the greater good; such as acknowledgment that there actually might be a greater good; such as respect (not just "tolerance ") for decency and modesty and a bunch of other stuff regarded as impossibly yesterday and irrelevant.

It's all about politics now, which includes the duty not to push "outworn" cultural beliefs on someone else. Hey, doesn't that someone have the same rights of self-expression as you? Let him talk; let him blaspheme; let him offend people with presumably no right not to be offended or told off. Just keep him away from "the n-word," because, you see, these deeply political matters aren't negotiable. You can make fun of priests and "the Religious Right"; you can pose -- like Madonna -- on a crucifix; you can talk like a football locker room, wherever and whenever.

Ah, the old days! They weren't ideal, as to politics or culture, either one. One thing they were was generally intelligent as to the relationship between the two realms. They knew, those old fellers, that you couldn't have good politics without a relatively healthy culture of norms and standards and dignity and overarching beliefs. You couldn't have moral anarchy -- in other words, the thing we seem to have now.

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There are ladies present
You will still find those standards enforced in my neighbourhood, and everybody knows it. "Sorry, Kate" is required if any of the Seven Words or their analogues slip out in my presence, and absolutely nobody slides by. "Please, there are ladies present," is my smiling but definite response, and both my boys still wince when Those Words slip out as they well remember that backhand across the mouth that once or twice when they were young knocked them right off their chairs. Now they are grown up it's not possible to stop the flow of Language but both of them know it's wrong in some times and places.

My point is of course that it is up to the individual lady or gentleman and his or her parents to enforce these standards and to realize that other people will follow these rules if you politely and consistently insist upon it and never let it pass in your presence. Some people don't even realize they have limited their vocabulary to two words; I once asked a couple of teenagers sitting behind me on the bus if they realized that they ended every single sentence they spoke with "and s**t" and they both looked very embarrassed.

People want to do what is right but they can't do it if they don't know it. Once I stood and watched two-way traffic through a large hall begin to disintigrate into formless pushing and shoving as the people tasked with security stood idly by, and finally I embarrassed the daylights out of my sister by raising my New York City voice to start shouting, "Walk to the right please. Walk to the right, please." and lo and behold, the problem straightened right out. The embarrassed 'security' boys said "You should be working for us." I told them that THEY should be working at the job they had been paid to do -- stopping situations by telling people what they were expected to do. But then this generation thinks you can negotiate with a screaming toddler about whether or not he will sit in a child safety seat, so maybe it's too late....

Re: There are ladies present

I've long been curious as to why women are so hypersensitive
where aesthetic matters are concerned, particularly regarding
language. Where does this idiosyncrasy come from? And as with
the position of the toilet seat, why do they believe they're
entitled to special consideration?


-CB-


Creighton
I don't think that women are so hypersensitive, as I know several women that can cuss a blue streak. I think it is a gentleman thing that we do not use coarse language in front of women; it just looks bad for a man not to be able to govern his tongue in mixed company. There is just something 'ungentlmanly' about cursing and making off color jokes around women, I suppose it is just how I was raised.

But don't think for a minute women aren't using the same type of language between themselves that men do! They do, but in many cases they keep it to themselves and appreciate it when men keep it among themselves as well.

"moral anarchy"
Moral compasses turned into pinwheels...

Muckraker!
Murchison, you are talking about an him using the "N" word 25 years ago?!?! So lemme guess, George Bush snorting cocaine is a pass - a non-factor. But using the "N" word is reason to riot? Words cannot describe how incredibly evil your actions appear.

Kinky's commercial
Laely, Kinky Friedman has been running an ad that quotes Jesus' parable about the "Good Shepherd", stating that he would be such a one as Governor. He forgets that this implies that his voters are like his sheep. This is how a Liberal campaigns in Texas?

In this context, allusions to Brokeback Mountain should be deemed crude, insensitive, and entirely welcome.


Manners: something you have around
someone of the opposite sex or someone older. A set of rules for behavior that govern speech and actions to show good 'breeding' and respect.

Used to govern television also. Alas, no more. Especially true of comedy channel. Used to love the 'roasts' but they have turned into vile, nasty discussions of sex/or lack, with reasons! And every other word is bleeped.

Ah, for the good ole days of innuendo!

Friedman
has no illusions about winning the campaign, IMO. Just as he always has, Kinky uses his particular flavor of humor to reveal where hypocrisy exists. Remember, this is the guy who once toured with a band he called The Texas Jewboys.

Once upon a time, there were different standards for public and private behavior. The concept of "company manners" meant that you recognized situations where it was appropriate to be more careful about your language, dress and demeanor.

Today's public nastiness certainly did not begin with the advent of the cell phone, but the way you see portable phones used in public reflects the degradation of polite behavior. Now that so many people feel no need to keep their personal business private, the lid has come off and gotten lost somewhere.

Luckily, there remain pockets of politeness. A year ago we spent a week camping in a state park in WV. Labor Day occurred during this stretch, and the place was filled to capacity. But people were remarkably considerate of others, and I did not hear so much as a harsh word during the entire trip.

Upon our return to Baltimore, my wife opened the door of the truck, and the first word that struck our ears was "mother****er," uttered casually by one high school kid to another, fully half a block away. Welcome back to real life.

Most of the time, to confront someone about their bad language is to invite being threatened with violence. And the most irritating part is there is a double-standard, depending which racial or ethnic group you happen to occupy.

Double standard or not?
"Murchison, you are talking about an him using the "N" word 25 years ago?!?! So lemme guess, George Bush snorting cocaine is a pass - a non-factor. But using the "N" word is reason to riot? Words cannot describe how incredibly evil your actions appear."

Right. Looks like a double-standard. But I will say, context is everything. I _have_ heard Bill Cosby cuss in his routines - 7 times. And it wouldn't have been funny without it (don't ask for examples - I don't remember them).

Let me say it again: Context is everything. My saying is that most guys are a&&holes until they're about 26. Did that apply?

To Justathought and others: definition of manners: one of the lubricants that enables society to function.

When I read the title...
... I thought it meant Algore was again contributing to the Greenhouse Gas Effect by making another speech.

Verbal pollution
IMO, began when the wussification of men began. Used to be that a woman wanted a strong (morally, intellectually, emotionally) man. One in control of his words and deeds. Then along came the feminazis who told us that all the things we used to try to teach young boys was wrong. That they needed to get in touch with their inner selves and learn to express themselves more openly. We've now had a few generations of males whose inner selves are crass and base and they are now in charge of popular culture.

I've tried to teach my sons that if they expect to be master of their respective households they must first master themselves.

And before anyone out there gets their grungies in a bunch, what I mean by that is that a household is like a ship. There can only be one captain. But a good captain accepts input and criticism yet it still boils down to the captain to make the decision.

Blow the man down!
"...what I mean by that is that a household is like a ship. There can only be one captain. But a good captain accepts input and criticism yet it still boils down to the captain to make the decision."

What if the captain's incompetent and won't take input?

In my experience
If you behave as a lady, commanding respect, the majority of the time, you will receive it.

Chivalry
Richard, a long-time friend of mine, grew up around a Virginian sailor, and yet still managed to become one of the few gentlemen I have ever met. He always opens doors for women, and seats them in restaraunts, and he always speaks with respect to the listener.

Yet ever since he moved to Ohio, he has been... relunctant to do such things anymore. The last time he held a door for a "lady", she cursed at him, asking why he believed she could not open a door on her own. He pointed out the large amounts of groceries in her hands, and once again, was only thanked with curses.

Jay in Milwaukee
Well, if the captain is at see, accidents do happen...

They are less likely to happen on land though.

BrianR
Have you SEEN Algor lately? With all he's been eating, he could contribute to the rise of the oceans should they let him near the beach, not to mention all the global warming that must emit from his arse. He doesn't even have to speak to contribute.

I don't think he's buying enough monopoly-money carbon credits from Europe to offset the true damage he's causing to our ecosystem.

Feminists and Democrats
Democrats, feminists, Internet Myspace and IM, and the liberal media are creating havoc in their attempt to erase moral values and create a pornographic culture.
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